The life transition into the third age is a big change. Change is scary and change is tiring and change is never ending. There are times though that you have to stand up, take control of your life and decide that it is time to age disgracefully.

First of all start dreaming. Write it all down and work out what your deepest desire is- the one thing you really want to do with your life.

Next, make a list of all the things you want to do before you die. Anything can be on this list and your list will be exciting and unique.

After that, take small steps towards your goals. As long as you’re moving forward, you are moving closer to achieving your dreams.

Along the way, face the fear. The things that we really want usually have a range of fears attached to them. Face each fear and negative voice that will try to divert you along the way and recognise them as simple thoughts designed to keep you passive and fearful. Ride the big emotions and carry on doing things to achieve your goal.

Stay positive. Once you commit to the challenge, you will naturally do whatever needs to be done. You can achieve your dreams by simply looking at the big picture and the positive aspects of the journey towards it.

Whatever happens, accept the good. Just take whatever is good from the experience and use it to build towards to your personal dream. Ignore the bad. It will only get you down. Take note of any lessons learned and then let the memory go. Take the good with you into the future.

Finally, give yourself a midlife makeover. Update and re-vamp your look including your wardrobe, your hair and your make up. Look and feel comfortable with yourself and then face the world with courage. People who are timid are rewarded with safety but people who are brave are rewarded with adventure…. And adventure is what life’s all about isn’t it?